“Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.”
Proverbs 17:9 NLT
This weekend, I attended my church’s Freedom Conference. Throughout the past 13 weeks, I’ve attended a Freedom small group. It’s designed to help you embrace the truth of God’s word, remove every obstacle to intimacy with God, and walk in true freedom. The entire conference was powerful; it was truly a life-changing experience.
One of the amazing speakers, Colette Greene, shared truths about forgiveness. She reminded us that forgiveness is not saying the other person’s actions were right. It’s not excusing their behavior. “God never intended for you to be hurt by anyone,” she said. She went on to remind us that forgiveness is not a feeling, but a choice. Another speaker pointed out, “Forgiveness is continuous.”
That single sentence changed my entire perspective. It now made sense that although I’d said I’d forgiven people, bitterness and resentment still occasionally made a subtle appearance. Just as Martin Luther King Jr. said, “Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” We must constantly renew our minds, and make the decision to do for others what God has so graciously done for us.
As hard as it may sometimes seem, forgiveness is freeing. We were not created to live in bondage of what has been done to us. Instead, God has promised us abundant life and freedom in Him. He has graced us to forgive those who have hurt us. And when we choose to forgive, we experience peace, relief, strength and positivity. Instead of holding on to who or what has hurt you, choose the freedom of forgiveness. I promise, it’s so worth it!!