I believe marriage is a godly desire. After all, it is God’s idea. Marriage is truly a blessing and I believe sometimes we forget that singleness is a blessing as well. During a season of discontentment, I had to ask myself, If God never gave me a husband, would I still love Him? If God never gives me a husband, is He still good? My answer is yes! God’s love is the highest form of love and I could never abandon Him for any reason. I submitted my desires to Him and experienced a shift in perspective.
How do you currently view your season of singleness? Do you embrace it? Are you completely over it? Whether you are enjoying singleness or totally rejecting it, my prayer is that you’ll understand every season of your life is purposeful. There’s a reason for the path God has chosen you to walk. He could be using this time to develop your character, use you in other areas, or prepare you for what you are praying for. Impatience and bitterness are not the keys to your desires.
According to Psalm 84:11, if you are living for God, there is no good thing He will withhold from you. A healthy perspective allows you to trust in God’s character and His promises. The fulfillment of your desires will not satisfy you. You could have everything you ever wanted and still feel empty because only God Himself can fully sustain you.
I want to encourage you to be hopeful about the future, but to not lose sight of the beauty in today. The people in your life right now will not always be around. Cherish the moments you have with your loved ones. The opportunities you have today won’t always be available. Take advantage of this time to pursue your interests as well as the purpose God has called you to. Singleness doesn’t mean waiting for life to begin. Make the most of where you are right now! Travel, take a community class, explore a new hobby, join a co-ed small group, etc. Have fun!
Lastly, how can you serve others during this season? Where can you volunteer? Is there a need in your church or community that needs to be filled? Use this time to serve others and to develop your character.
Remember that as you are truly living for God, there is no good thing He will withhold from you. He will give you the desires of your heart when you delight in Him. And just because it hasn’t happened yet, doesn’t mean it won’t happen. Be expectant, have fun, and trust God! Most importantly, build your relationship with Him and make sure He is always first in your life and in your heart.
And by the way, Happy Valentine’s Day! This year is a special one for me because I’m celebrating the anniversary of the release of my first book, Chosen For Such A Time As This. It’s all about finding wholeness and contentment in your journey through singleness. And the best news – the eBook version is FREE today only! Be sure to grab your copy HERE on Amazon! Whether you’re single, married, engaged or in a situationship, please remember – you are special. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and you were graced for this journey. Trust God’s plan for your life and make the most of every day you’ve been blessed with 🙂 Head over to my IG and let me know how you plan to make the most of today – @styledandgraced